Raising Free Thinkers: A Speech by Peggy Webb and Karen Abe

Raising Free Thinkers: A Speech by Peggy Webb and Karen Abe

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Watch the replay of the live talk by Founder, Peggy Webb, and her eldest daughter, Karen Abe, who share stories about Karen’s upbringing as a natural learner and how she transitioned into college. Be sure to watch the Q&A section at the end, too!

West River Academy was invited to present at the LIFE is Good Unshooling Conference in Vancouver, Washington USA—a four-day gathering where hundreds of families came together to celebrate self-directed learning, share resources, and build community. This year’s event was especially meaningful for us, as Founder, Peggy Webb, and her daughter, Karen Abe, gave a presentation on building transcripts that captured the essence of natural learning.

Karen and Peggy spoke about West River Academy’s growth during its 32-year history and gave the audience a glimpse into what it truly means to trust a student-led path. Peggy shared the story of how she couldn’t find an educational approach that felt like the right fit—so she created one. Decades later, West River Academy has become a global school without walls, supporting thousands of families around the world in living and learning freely.

Karen, a mother of two, reflected on her own experience growing up in a home where education was guided by curiosity rather than curriculum. She spoke about learning self-responsibility from a young age—something that’s shaped her confidence, creativity and the way she now raises her own children. She shared how powerful it’s been to pass that torch on to the next generation and watch her five- and eight-year-old children thrive in a vibrant environment of curiosity-driven activities. At the conference, they played, made new friends, explored hands-on activities, and enjoyed being around so many other like-minded learners.

The presentation changed to an interactive dialog with the audience posing questions and issues regarding high school transcripts which reflect 4 years of passion-driven learning. Thanks to the enthusiastic response from participants and the conference director, we’re excited to return and continue representing West River Academy next year! We hope many families will attend and enjoy the inclusive nature of the happy community.

Please enjoy the replay from Peggy and Karen’s speech in the video below. We hope their words encourage you—whether you’re just starting out on the unschooling path or many years into it—to trust the process, lean into curiosity, and remember: this is what freedom in education looks like.

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WRA Team Gathering in Argentina

WRA Team Gathering in Argentina

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From heartfelt conversations to shared meals, this unforgettable gathering reminded us of the power of community and the magic that happens when passionate people unite in person.

Over the past few years, we’ve seen something remarkable unfold at West River Academy: a wave of growth, energy, and enthusiasm from our Spanish-speaking students and families throughout Latin America. What started as a few connections has blossomed into a vibrant network of learners, parents, and educators across South America, Central America, and Spain. As our student body has grown, so too has our team—evolving to meet the needs of this thriving community.

We now proudly work alongside five dedicated team members who support Spanish-speaking families and groups, bringing our learner-centered philosophy to life across time zones and borders. And in May, something truly special happened: for the first time ever, our Latin American team came together in person for a Spanish and English-speaking Team Meeting held in Buenos Aires, Argentina.

It was a gathering years in the making.

For many of us at West River Academy, the idea of connection—real, human, face-to-face connection—sits at the heart of our philosophy. While we’ve supported countless families virtually, there’s something magical that happens when we can be together in the same place, sharing stories, laughter, and dreams over a shared meal. That’s exactly what this trip offered: a chance to build on the strong foundation we’ve created together, but this time in person.

Karen Abe, our Group Manager, made the journey to Argentina to meet our team and visit one of our affiliated groups operating there. It was Karen’s first time in Argentina, and the experience left a lasting impression. She was immediately captivated by the beauty of Buenos Aires—the winding cobblestone streets, the European-style architecture, the rhythm of daily life pulsing with history and heart. As a passionate tango dancer of more than twenty years, Karen found herself right at home in a place where music, movement, and culture are so deeply intertwined.

During her stay, she immersed herself in the rich traditions of Argentine Tango dancing and music, soaking up every note, every step, every story. Tango is more than just a dance—it’s a language of connection and expression, much like the work we do at West River Academy. It felt like a poetic parallel: traveling across the world to witness the rhythm of a community in motion, both literally and figuratively.

The team chose to hold their gathering in La Plata, a charming town just outside Buenos Aires, which has strong cultural and historical ties to Italy. Fittingly, they shared a meal at a local Italian restaurant—where laughter and warmth filled the air as much as the aroma of fresh pasta and conversation. This meeting was not just about work—it was about belonging. It was about pausing to honor the journey they’ve each taken, and the shared purpose that has brought them together.

Our founder and director, Peggy Webb, joined the meeting via Zoom to share her gratitude, vision, and heartfelt reflections. Though thousands of miles away, her presence bridged the physical distance, underscoring just how deeply connected we all are—no matter where we live or work. Peggy listened as team members shared their experiences supporting students across Latin America and Spain, highlighting both the challenges they’ve overcome and the beautiful successes they’ve witnessed along the way.

What stood out most was the overwhelming sense of family. Though many of the team members had worked together for years, this was the first time they had hugged, laughed, and shared stories in person. What had always felt like a close-knit team now felt like an even deeper bond—a chosen family united by values, vision, and a deep commitment to empowering young people to take ownership of their education.

Karen and our Spanish Group Manager, Mili, also had the opportunity to visit one of our affiliated groups in Salta, Argentina, which operates with the same educational philosophy that guides West River Academy. This group, like so many that we support, is built on trust, curiosity, and a belief in the intrinsic motivation of every learner. Witnessing their day-to-day rhythms, listening to the stories of students and facilitators, and seeing firsthand the beauty of a learning environment shaped by freedom and respect was a powerful reminder of why this work matters.

We believe that education is not confined to a classroom or a curriculum—it’s a lifelong journey, shaped by culture, community, and connection. The visit to Argentina reaffirmed this truth and celebrated the incredible impact our Latin American team is having on families throughout the region.

We are deeply grateful for each member of our team, and especially for the heart and dedication of those serving our Spanish-speaking families. Their work often goes unseen, but its impact ripples outward every day—inspired students, empowered parents, and thriving communities. Whether they are answering questions via WhatsApp, reviewing learning documentation, or hosting local teen gatherings, they are doing so with integrity, love, and a shared belief in the limitless potential of every young person.

This trip was not just a milestone—it was a moment of celebration. A celebration of our growth, of our shared mission, and of the human connections that make all of it possible. As we continue expanding into new regions and welcoming more families into the West River Academy community, we carry with us the memories of this special gathering in Argentina and the renewed sense of purpose it sparked.

WRA Groups: Escuela Tai in Salta, Argentina

WRA Groups: Escuela Tai in Salta, Argentina

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Last month, our Group Manager, Karen Abe, traveled to Argentina to meet our WRA Team there and visit one of our affiliated groups that operates as a school rooted in the same educational philosophy we hold dear.

This past month, our team at West River Academy had the incredible opportunity to visit one of our inspiring groups in Argentina, called “Escuela Tai” in a city named Salta. What began as a simple site visit quickly became something much deeper—an emotional, powerful reminder of why we do this work. The students, the parents, the educators, and the landscape itself—everything spoke to the magic of self-directed learning, resilience, and community.

Our team, who visited the group, talked about how the students gathered beneath the flowering Palo Borracho tree at the heart of their outdoor plaza, where the environment seemed to reflect the spirit of the school—alive, rooted, and full of growth. One tree in particular was planted in memory of a beloved student who passed away. Her legacy continues to bloom each year, a living symbol of how deeply these spaces matter. This was not just a school visit—it was an encounter with a living, breathing ecosystem of love, learning, and legacy.

This group, led by a courageous and visionary mother named Vivi, is one of the first alternative education communities in Salta, Argentina. In a region shaped by tradition and religious customs, Vivi pioneered a bold new path—creating a nurturing, inclusive learning space where kids can be themselves without shame or pretense. Her energy, her daughters’ support, and the intergenerational spirit of the group reminded us of a family-run learning village, mirroring the very heart of what West River Academy stands for.

Thanks to Vivi’s courageous leadership and the strength of her relationships—including with the local Ministry of Education—West River Academy is now well-established in Argentina. Our graduates are not only being accepted into top universities like Universidad Catolica de Salta, but they’re also returning to mentor and guide the next generation of students. Their pride, authenticity, and sense of self is palpable. They speak English, they advocate for their education, and most importantly, they carry their freedom with pride.

This visit was part of our new “WRA Groups” blog series, where we’ll continue to share the stories of the vibrant communities we support around the world. Whether it’s the flowering trees in Argentina or the laughter of children around a table, each visit reminds us that this movement is bigger than any one of us.

To our Latin American team—you are not only keeping this vision alive; you are expanding it in ways we could only dream of. We’re honored to walk beside you.

Learn About the Largest Unschooling Conference in the USA!

Learn About the Largest Unschooling Conference in the USA!

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Our Creative Director, Rachel Nishikawa, recently spoke with Chrissie Korolsky, a board member helping to organize this year’s event. Once a traditional high school math teacher, Chrissie’s perspective transformed the moment she experienced this conference for the first time. Since then, she’s built a thriving unschooling community in her hometown and now plays a key role in shaping this inspiring national gathering.

In anticipation of the upcoming event on May 22-25, where Peggy and Karen will be speaking about their unschooling journey and how to put it all in a transcript, Rachel met with Chrissie on Zoom to hear the story behind her shift from traditional education to unschooling — and to explore the meaningful ways this conference has impacted families, including her own.

For Chrissie and her family, the “L.I.F.E. is Good” Conference (Living In Freedom Everyday) has become a cornerstone of their unschooling journey — something they look forward to each year, alongside their closest friends. But it wasn’t always that way. In fact, Chrissie and her husband came from a very traditional background — she was a high school math teacher, and unschooling wasn’t even on their radar. They were invited by a friend, who encouraged them to come with an open mind. When they first walked through the doors of the conference, they were total newcomers, ready to expand their perspective, and quickly captivated by the ease and authenticity of the kids around them. Just a few hours in, the atmosphere, conversations, and community shifted something within them. Chrissie’s husband turned to her and said, “Oh, we’re staying the whole weekend!” 

Fast forward seven years and Chrissie’s eldest – now a teenager – is actively involved in shaping the event, offering ideas on how to create a welcoming, inspiring space for fellow teens. The teen program has grown into something truly special: a dedicated room they get to design and decorate themselves (complete with a shopping trip included), plus creative projects, casual hangouts and workshops throughout the weekend. This year, two teens – aged 13 and 15 – will even take the stage to speak in front of the entire conference, sharing their voices and perspectives with the community. See more info here: https://www.lifeisgoodconference.com/teen-scene

Chrissie shared that one of the most beautiful aspects of the conference is the sense of belonging it fosters. Rachel and Chrissie spoke about how, even beyond the speakers and activities, it’s the small moments — spontaneous conversations in the gathering areas, seeing the same faces each day, in-depth chats among teens about the hard stuff — that create lasting memories and meaningful friendships. 

There are many popular discussion circles during the event, including the “Secret Society of Unschooling Dads”, where all of the fathers can come together and share vulnerably with each other and deepen their understanding of unschooling, and all it includes. Chrissie mentioned how this safe space tends to have a very positive ripple effect on the whole family.

Watch the interview below to learn about what makes this conference so meaningful: real community, honest conversations, and the space to reimagine what education and growth can look like when children are trusted and empowered. 

Click here to Register and meet us at the event!
https://www.lifeisgoodconference.com/registration

Watch the interview here:
https://youtu.be/5bBvsiMBfLs

Rachel, Creative Director

How a Social Hour Sparked a Journey of Global Connection

How a Social Hour Sparked a Journey of Global Connection

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Last month, we had the pleasure of sitting down with Jirka from the Czech Republic and Anna from Romania, two of our 11th-grade students at West River Academy. Their friendship blossomed after meeting during one of our monthly Social Hour calls. Since their first email exchange following that call, they have become inseparable friends, chatting daily and sharing their lives from afar. Jirka even made a week-long trip to Romania to visit Anna and experience her country firsthand. In our interview, both shared how their friendship and this unique cultural exchange have deepened their understanding of each other’s worlds.

Jirka and Anna’s friendship is built on a mutual love of languages, having fun and learning in a way that is enjoyable. Both students have been homeschooled most of their lives, which they believe has fueled their curiosity and given them the freedom to explore topics beyond standard curricula. “I always liked learning about places outside the Czech Republic,” Jiri said. “Meeting Anna and seeing her life in Romania felt like opening a new chapter in a book I’d always wanted to read.” Anna agreed, adding that connecting with someone so far away who shares her passion has made her feel inspired to connect with more people around the world.

Jirka’s week in Romania was packed with exploration and fun. From strolling through Anna’s hometown to visiting historical sites, he was immersed in a culture that was both new and fascinating. One of the first things Jirka noticed was the warmth and hospitality of the people, something that Anna had often mentioned. In Romanian culture, hospitality is a significant value, with families welcoming visitors with open arms and plenty of food. Jirka experienced this firsthand when Anna’s family hosted him,  “They made me feel so welcome,” Jirka shared. “Everyone is just SO friendly and we are always eating good food!”

The duo is inspired to continue traveling and hope to make more WRA friends! They have created their own WhatsApp group for teenagers in Europe. It’s an incredible opportunity to have “classmates”, as they say, all around the world and we hope our students will continue to adventure and learn together as lifetime friends!

Learn About West River Academy Groups

Learn About West River Academy Groups

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At West River Academy, our mission is to nurture the unique paths of self-led learners around the world. Founded on an unschooling approach, we believe in empowering students to follow their curiosity and develop a lifelong love of learning through their interests and explorations. While some students enroll with us individually, others join through learning groups—small communities of families and educators who share our vision for self-directed education. These groups provide students with a supportive, dynamic environment where they can explore, grow, and learn in ways that resonate with them personally.

To celebrate and connect with the diverse communities within West River Academy, we feature a blog series called “WRA Groups.” This series highlights the unique learning groups that have joined our academy, each formed around their own values, ideas, and local communities. We are proud to support over 100 groups worldwide, each with complete freedom to design educational experiences that best meet their students’ needs. These groups vary widely, reflecting our belief that learning should be as unique as each individual and group of students.

One of the most vibrant segments of our WRA community includes our Spanish-speaking groups, which have grown to 96. Leading these groups is our dedicated manager, Milagros Burga, who brings her passion for unschooling and community-building to support these families in their self-led educational journeys. Recently, we welcomed Karen Abe to our team, who now assists 46 additional groups, bringing her own expertise and enthusiasm to help our groups flourish.

Meet Our Groups Team

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Karen Abe

Karen Abe is Peggy’s eldest daughter and grew up being unschooled as West River Academy’s first student. She spent her teenage years pursuing her passions of horseback-riding, swing dancing, and reading historical fiction and sci-fi. After graduating from West River Academy, she went on to finish a four-year Bachelor of Science in Business Administration with an emphasis on Project Management. She began working full-time for a financial services company when she was 18, and worked full-time while going to college full-time (and continuing to swing dance in her spare moments!).

She left the financial services company in 2014 after getting married to Brian, and they traveled the world for a few months on an extended honeymoon. In February 2015 she joined Peggy at West River Academy to assist her with the growing school. With her sisters Stacey and Rachel joining soon afterwards, the family business began expanding rapidly. In 2018 she moved from Denver, Colorado to live in an ecovillage (La Ecovilla) in Costa Rica with her husband and their 2-year old son. After her daughter was born in 2019, she stepped back from her position as Assistant Director of West River Academy to be a devoted mother to her toddler son and infant daughter in their early years.

In the fall of 2024 her family started a new chapter and moved to Encinitas, California. Her son, Jason, is now 8 years old and her daughter, Lily, is 5 years old, and they are enjoying their homeschooled life in California. She is happy to be returning to West River Academy and supporting families and groups of students in their educational journey.

Milagros Burga

Born in Buenos Aires, Argentina, Milagros Burga has always been a social person with a love for group activities. Growing up with the freedom to pursue her interests, she spent her childhood surrounded by friends, pets, and the joy of nature. She studied music, played the guitar, and joined an Argentine folk music group with her best friends, performing around Argentina, Spain, and Italy. After high school, Milagros earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Musical Arts with an emphasis on Lyric Singing, followed by an opera specialization at the Instituto Superior de Arte del Teatro Colón (ISATC). Her career allowed her to travel throughout Latin America and Europe, performing in various opera productions.

In 2020, she married Roger, who also works with WRA. Introduced to Peggy and her family in 2022, Milagros is now a valued member of the West River Academy team, supporting Spanish-speaking groups and graduates, and hosting the December Graduation Ceremony.

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How groups work?

To ensure that every group aligns with our philosophy, we hold one-on-one meetings with each group’s administrator. These conversations help us confirm that each group’s approach resonates with our mission—to foster curiosity, warmth, and natural learning. Through these partnerships, we can guide and support our groups as they create nurturing, curiosity-driven learning environments for their students.

If you, or someone you know, is educating children in a group setting and could benefit from the accreditation and support West River Academy provides, we invite you to reach out. Together, we can continue building a global network of learners and educators dedicated to fostering a love of learning and discovery. We’re here to support your journey and welcome you to our growing community.

Puerto Vallarta “Learning with Friends” – WRA Group in Mexico

Puerto Vallarta “Learning with Friends” – WRA Group in Mexico

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Recently, West River Academy’s Creative Director, Rachel Nishikawa, and Group Manager, Milagros “Mili” Burga, traveled to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, to visit one of the academy’s unique learning groups, “Learning with Friends.” This exceptional group embodies our values of freedom, curiosity, and a strong moral foundation. Meeting the group’s administrators, Rachel and Mili had the chance to learn about the inspiring origins of this small yet thriving learning community and witness the ways in which they bring education to life in the beautiful, natural environment of Puerto Vallarta.

The story of “Learning with Friends” began with a simple, yet generous idea. One of the founding parents had inherited a large property and, instead of keeping it private, collaborated with other families to create an educational space for their children. What started as a parent-led initiative has blossomed into a vibrant community where students are encouraged to learn and grow through self-directed exploration. This collaboration has brought together families who share a common vision for education that values both personal freedom and ethical development.

One of the standout aspects of “Learning with Friends” is their focus on outdoor education. Nestled in the beautiful region of Puerto Vallarta, many of their programs are designed to immerse students in the surrounding nature. Classes and activities take place outdoors, allowing students to experience the environment as an interactive classroom. Students regularly go on field trips, exploring Puerto Vallarta’s rich geography and cultural heritage. From visiting local landmarks to learning about the area’s ecosystems, students are able to deepen their understanding of the world around them through real-life experiences.

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The group also emphasizes values-based learning, with a focus on cultivating empathy, respect, and a strong moral compass. Education here goes beyond traditional academics to encompass personal development and character building. Students learn to respect each other and the environment, creating a harmonious, inclusive space that aligns closely with West River Academy’s mission. This ethos has fostered a sense of joy and enthusiasm among students, who thrive in this supportive, community-oriented environment.

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Thanks to West River Academy’s support, “Learning with Friends” has also gained government validation, which gives families the reassurance of formal recognition while maintaining the flexibility and freedom inherent to their approach.

This group continues to grow, and West River Academy is proud to support them in creating such an exceptional place for students to learn and thrive.

Jaco Learning Center – WRA Group in Costa Rica

Jaco Learning Center – WRA Group in Costa Rica

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Collaboration is key at Jaco Learning Center because the teachers, parents and students work closely together to create a learning experience built on creativity, unity and natural learning.  They have created a beautiful learning space that has different sections based on age range. They have an outdoor space, a second-level sport section, a music area, divisions within the building to separate the learning areas and they fill each space with age-appropriate learning materials such as books, craft projects and other educational games and activities. The parents and teachers work well together to design learning themes. In addition to the natural curiosity that comes with living in Costa Rica’s tropical climate, the parents and teachers prioritize critical thinking skills and it is very important to teach the students about how they can directly create a positive impact on their community.

In March, our Creative Director, Rachel Nishikawa, had the fantastic opportunity to visit and meet with the Principal, Brittany. With three of her own children enrolled, Brittany radiates a profound dedication to the unschooling ethos. Her warmth and boundless compassion are evident in every interaction. She gave Rachel a tour of their vibrant learning hub where children thrive at their own rhythm.

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We enjoy connecting with our groups around the world because it is fascinating to see how alternative education can be applied in various cultures. In countries where withdrawing students from the government educational system is illegal, families who dare to do so run the risk of being arrested or reported to social services. In order to reduce the risk of this happening, families enroll in West River Academy and demonstrate with their Confirmation of Enrollment documents that they are complying with compulsory attendance laws by enrolling in a private school in the United States. They can also present official transcripts to prove the student has completed grade levels. Worldschoolers and other ex-pats who join learning communities may feel safer being enrolled with a school such as West River Academy.

 

A Graduate’s Journal

A Graduate’s Journal

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In our Graduation Program we not only want to hear about the curriculum you might be doing, but we want to know who you are, what influences your thought process and the person you are aspiring to be. Because in a society that has forgotten to value wisdom, curiosity and introspection, young adults who are nurtured in this way during the most developmental period of their life are an incredible asset to our world as whole.

Prospective graduate, Michael Heaton, delivers a reflective report of his personal growth and shares his thoughts as he navigates a trivial time in his life.

If I’m honest, I could call February my realization month. I read many books from prophets to philanthropists, philosophers to fables; everything. Many of them had different messages and sometimes they were conflicting. But the things I have learned have helped me to see where I truly am, where I will go if I continue doing what I am doing, and where I truly want to end up.

In the beginning of February I had a huge personal expense come up. The good news is that I finally paid it all off. But that whole month I felt totally broke. Which is not a bad thing to feel at my age because I don’t have a family or spouse depending on me. It just makes me realize how much growing I still have left before I am really ready for the real adult world. In a nut shell I’d say the beginning was humbling.

That works out perfectly for this type of education because it proves the old story of Socrates. Most people know about the young man who goes to Socrates and says something to the fact that he wants to learn from Socrates and be wise like him. Socrates then walks down to the beach and shoves his head in the water. The young man fights to come up to breathe. And finally when he almost drowns Socrates lets him up. Of course the young man is furious. Socrates responds calmly saying that once he wants truth and knowledge as bad as he wanted air, then he would teach him. That very desire that Socrates points out, is what I had in February. I got tired of settling for the life I had. My income seemed capped. My friendships, limited and self absorbed. My spiritual life, mundane and routine. My physical health, mediocre at best.

After I realized where I was at, I wrote some things that I wanted to change. I put up a white board where I can track my progress in different areas in my life to see what I needed to work on. Although I’m not perfect at updating it, it is in my room and I constantly look at it as I do my schooling. I’ve learned that if you want something to improve, you need to track it. The moment you do that, it becomes a priority. That has really helped me appreciate the gift of a day. There will never be a day like today ever again. And each day we are given, we trade for the things we think are important. Whether we are just killing time, or investing it, we can never get that day back. So we must use it wisely.

Previous to February, I often found myself bored, unfulfilled, and not where I wanted to be. If that continued, I’d follow the saying, “Some people die at 25, and aren’t buried until 75”. I don’t want that by any means. When I was bored and unfulfilled I also found that it effected my relationships. Not because people were all a sudden being jerks. But because I was focusing on myself so much more because I had nothing else to do. And lets be honest, none of us like a friend who is self centered.

Once I realized that my laziness was effecting who I was becoming, I decided to change. I started passing out flyers to expand my landscaping business in South Phoenix. I’m reading deeper into the words of God. I’ve tried to be less task oriented and play with those around me when they ask for my attention. When I think of old friends, I send them a text to let them know that I appreciate their role in my life. If I have down time, I invest it into my future. Just those simple things have revolutionized my life; not to mention my self confidence.

Now I know a lot of this could not be classified under math, science, or history. But I still believe that it is education. I believe that education is supposed to make life easier. Without knowing the things that I’ve just shared, life would be much harder. And if I could narrow down everything I’ve learn last month, I’d say this, success is never an achievement or trophy that we can attain and lock away for the rest of our lives. That is what you call a goal. Most people, including myself, think that success can eventually be achieved once we do this, or accomplish that, or face a certain obstacle. But the truth is success is only realized in the pursuit of your goals. The moment we stop stretching for what we want, and becoming a better person each day, we are no longer successful.

So thanks again for this program of credibility, and accountability. It’s helped me a lot already. Talk to you next month.

A Graduates’ Path to Self-discovery

A Graduates’ Path to Self-discovery

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The West River Academy Graduation Program students are a true testament to the philosophy that there is beauty in diversity. The young adults that we cross paths with have learned that it is okay to hit walls, question your identity, and feel imperfect. Because what you learn from that is how to bounce back, be authentic and embrace your uniqueness.

Marta Chan is an exceptional young woman in our Graduation Program Class of 2018. In one of her monthly report assignments, she reflects on a trip to Finland, growing up in Estonia and her journey to self-discovery.

“Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine… And it’s breathtakingly beautiful!” L.R. Knost has managed to put into words the description of how this month was for me.

I learned once again, that sometimes things just don’t work out as you planned. I thought I had already learned this lesson, but this month proved me wrong. Nothing seemed to go the way I wanted. I was really upset and irritated. But then, I started noticing all these unexpected little, wonderful things that happened in my life. I realized how I sometimes rush to get everything done and forget the reason why I’m doing these things in the first place. Writing my thoughts and feelings down into my journal, really helped me find some serenity and peace of mind.

One thing that was constantly on my mind this month, was my dad’s Chinese origin and his ancestry. It’s challenging for me to do family history from his side, because I do not speak neither Cantonese nor Mandarin Chinese. I’m learning the latter, but it’s rather difficult. It’s not so much the language that’s hard to learn but the notion and culture of the Chinese people. As I have learned more about their culture and traditions, I have recognized pieces of it in myself. I know my parents gave and still give their best in raising me and my siblings and I am really grateful for them, because they have allowed and encouraged me to become the best me. But at times I feel like I am disconnected from the Chinese “part” of me. When I was younger, I always tried to convince others (and myself) that I am a “true- Estonian”. And I remember being so upset when someone would point out that I’m “half- Chinese”, because it made me feel as if I’m incomplete and hence insufficient. But with time I came to realize, that’s not true! Rather than trying to define myself, I learned to know myself. Who I am? Who and What I love? What are my fears, my talents, my passions? What do I do to accomplish my dreams? These are the things that matter. These are the things that make me complete. Not perfect, far from that. But whole.

I learned that if we come to accept ourselves the way we are, it helps us move forward and better ourselves. The beauty in being a human is that we have both the ability and power to improve ourselves. Our backgrounds and situations do not play important roles in this. Our attitude does. My dear grandpa told me once: “A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t drive the car anywhere until you change it. And if you change it, you can go anywhere your heart desires”. I agree with him.

February Twenty-fourth officially marked the one-hundreth birthday of the Republic of Estonia. This gave me again a reason to dive into my family history and celebrate the people who built this country. Their sacrifices and diligence in hardships don’t cease to both amaze and impress me.

Screen Shot 2018 03 16 at 2.21.51 PM 48x36@2xOne of the highlights of this month was our family trip to Finland. We went there by a ferry. It was really cool to see the frozen Baltic Sea. All of the water was pretty much asymmetrical blocks of ice. Finland is really pretty! They have many lakes (about 168 000) and endless uninhabited boreal forests! But our first priority was to visit Helsinki Finland Temple. I believe it to be (along with the rest of the 159 operating temples our Church has) a sacred place and the house of God. It was wonderful to visit it and it really made me appreciate everything that has been created, even more than I did before. The time there also gave me a chance to rewind everything that has been going on in my life lately and steer myself back to where I want to be. In conclusion, this month I mostly analysed and studied myself. As ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle said: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

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